Caregivers, Take Note!

 
All Caregivers~~~plus many who have learned that the baby they are expecting may have special needs~~~please take a look at these words: "My face may be different, but my feelings the same. I laugh and I cry and take pride in my gains. I was sent here among you to teach and to love, as God in the heavens looks down from above. To Him I'm no different, His love knows no bounds; It's those here among you, in cities and towns that judge me by standards that man has imported, but this family I've chosen will help me get started. For I'm one of the children, so special and few, that came here to learn the same lessons as you. That love is acceptance, it must come from the heart. We all have the same purpose, though not the same start. The Lord gave me life to live and embrace, and I'll do it as you do, but at my own pace.-- Unknown author.~~~There are many e-mails, articles and blogs filled with the question about what it's like to have a child with Down syndrome. Comments and responses have spoken of the joy of being loved by one of these children, and of the help from new research and resources. I am deeply thankful that so much is going on these days with children who have special needs!

"Journey With Jeff" under Caregiver's Arm

 
"I'm bringing my copy of "Journey With Jeff; Inspiration for Caregivers of People With Special Needs" with me for our stay at Strong Memorial," a caregiver friend told me. She and her husband will be spending a couple of months at this University of Rochester hospital for cancer treatment for her spouse. Yes, caregiving for a child like Jeff may be different from caregiving for a spouse, but my friend believes she'll have the same feelings I wrote about dealing with Jeff being in the hospital. She pointed out the inspiration of the scripture quotes chosen for each of our God-stories. She liked the prayers following, which ranged from utter dismay at downturns in Jeff's health, to thanks for sending the right person at the right time, to exuberant praise when I sensed the holy in the ordinary.~~~My friend and I have not talked for almost five years as one thing after another has challenged her while being caregiver for her spouse. Now, I expect we may have some time together, with me as a "been there" listener and encourager. Perhaps she'll write an "Abba Father" letter or two to God, just as I did at low and high points.~~~O Healer God, put Your arms around this couple. Bless her as a caregiver, and heal her spouse quickly and thoroughly. Grant their doctors and caregivers at Strong much wisdom. Thank You! Amen.

 

Jeff and Mitch Miller

 
Earlier this week the world learned that Mitch Miller, a caring, charismatic, always smiling musician died at 99 years of age. Jeff enjoyed looking at his record album covers while listening to the "Sing Along With Mitch," popular songs, which came out in the early 1960's. A couple of long-time Lifetime Assistance, Inc. friends (who are sisters) wrote on their Facebook pages, "I bid a sad farewell to Mr. Mitch Miller followed by wonderful memories of an inspirational young man. Thanks, Mitch Miller for letting me think about him today." I replied, "Just a guess that you're thinking about Jeffrey Reisch and his great love of Mitch Miller? Jeff met him at Eastman School of Music in July 1988, when Mitch was here to conduct the Rochester Philharmonic Orchestra. Were you one of the staff who arranged that?" She quickly replied, "No, I was not one of the ones that arranged that meeting. I just remember hearing 'Mitch Miller!' so many times from Jeffrey. Anyone who knew and loved Jeffrey was well aware of his love for Mitch Miller. When I learned he had passed away my first thought was that Jeffrey would be so upset." Dennis Brown, one of the LAI managers who has been with LAI more than 30 years wrote, "Jeff was probably there to welcome him when he crossed over. What I wouldn't give to see that!" Yes, Dennis, that's exactly what I was thinking!!!~~~Another great outcome of these Facebook messages, is that I learned Marla Chefalo was the one who arranged Jeff's meeting with Mitch Miller. She said, "It was so much fun! They were both such good guys! I thought of that when I heard." My thanks to you for good memories because of your special efforts, Marla! The second sister concluded, "It's nice to have such happy memories returned to us. Jeff will forever be remembered with a song in my heart. Thank you for sharing him with the world." YES!!